Tip! Do what you can to minimise stressful situations. If you face a mad rush in the mornings, for example, get up earlier, have your clothes and paperwork ready.

• Do you feel overwhelmed by all the “stuff” in your life? Magazines and journals you’ve never finished reading, clothes you never wear, e-mail you haven’t responded to, or photographs you intended to share with friends or colleagues? • Are you embarrassed to invite people to your home or office because they will see the way you live or work? Do you rush around when someone’s coming to hide the evidence?

Tip! What’s stressful can vary greatly. What some people call stressful, others find exciting.

• Is clutter putting a strain on a relationship that’s important to you? Do you argue with your spouse about what to keep, or spend time reassuring your colleagues that you know what everything is?

• Do you waste time looking for things you really need - documents you already created, or the keys or receipt you had in your hand five minutes ago?

• Is your home or office just too crowded? Does clutter take valuable space and leave you feeling overwhelmed? If you answered “Yes” to any two or more of these questions, you are caught in The Clutter Trap - a state of cumulative disorder which diminishes your physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, or financial health. There are more than a few people reading this article right now who are feeling distressed by the clutter in their lives. There are more than a few whose relationships are drained by arguments about clutter. There are more than a few who would panic at a letter from the IRS announcing an audit. “But wait,” you may be saying.

Tip! Get plenty of sleep and rest. Sleep deprivation is a major cause of burnout, stress and anxiety.

• “Isn’t clutter the inevitable condition of living in a complex world with never enough time, never enough space. Always too much to be responsible for?”

• Or maybe you’re saying, “I’m creative, and creative people are just naturally messy.”

• Or “I’ve got more important things to do than worry about clutter.”

Here’s the truth! Clutter is NOT inevitable. It is NOT synonymous with creativity. It is NOT a precondition to life on earth in this time. You arrived on earth without clutter and you will certainly leave without clutter. The question is how you live in between!

Tip! It’s also important to make a distinction between stress and pressure. Stress comes from the outside, while pressure is an inside job.

Let’s put it another way: To know if you are organized, ask three questions:

1. Does it work?
2. Do you like it?
3. Does it work for others?

Most people answer “Yes” to the first question, hesitate on the second, and will admit the answer to the third is “No,” - but rationalize by saying it doesn’t really make any difference. But does it? What will be the results if something happens to you, or to one of the people in your organization? In reality clutter, and the resulting inability to find the right information at the right time, can, and often does, have a negative impact on everyone who lives or work in that environment.

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Our mission is to assist individuals, families, and organizations to create and sustain a productive environment so they can accomplish their work and enjoy their lives. What is a “Productive Environment?” Think of this way: It’s an environment in which everything supports who you are or who you want to be. The more clutter, the less likely you, or the people around you, will be able to find what they need effortlessly. We’ve developed a program called The Productivity QuickStart™ which guarantees a ten percent increase in productivity, based on the premise that your ability to accomplish any task or goal is directly related to ability to find the right thing at the right time.

During the past 25 years, we’ve distilled a five-step process you can use to create and sustain a productive environment which we call The Productive Environment Solution™:

1. Design your vision.
2. Eliminate your excuses.
3. Commit your time.
4. Select your tools.
5. Maintain your success.

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Notice the common word in those five steps? “Your!” The key to escaping the clutter trap and creating a productive environment is linked to discovering and implementing what works for YOU - not what worked for your mother, or what your colleague thinks you should do. In other words, “organizing is an art!” Design your vision

Have you ever noticed how much you seem not to notice about your everyday environment? Look around your office and you’re likely to “see” many things that have become invisible to you on a daily basis because you trained yourself not to look at them.

Tip! Don’t deal with stress in unhealthy ways: This includes drinking too much alcohol, using drugs, smoking, or overeating.

Clutter is postponed decisions®. The first step to creating a productive environment is to decide what you need to foster your best and highest experience. It is impossible to even define our own clutter if we do not hold a clear picture of who we are, or what we are about.

A photographer had on-going dreams about living in a white tower with glass windows, while her real home was buried in clutter accumulated over 30+ years. When we focused on her love of the arts, letting go of the unsightly clutter became less painful, and even freeing.

Eliminate your excuses

Banish all temptation to blame the condition of your surroundings on circumstances or people around you. “I don’t have enough space” often proves to be inaccurate after one of our office clean-out days. Choose to work with what you’ve got.

Tip! Create Worry zones and Stress times: pick a specific location for your worry party and limit yourself to this location for things worth worrying about. Get serious.

A book agent discussing the idea of a book on the subject of clutter commented, “Some of us are just slobs.” Only if you want to be. Creating a pleasing and productive environment requires a process. If you honor the process, you will succeed. While it’s impossible to force someone else to eliminate clutter, we’ve never met anyone who couldn’t get rid of their own.

Commit your time

Recognize that the time you invest in creating and sustaining a productive environment will pay returns every single day of your life in your personal and professional life.

One association executive recalls arriving at work every day for five years chastising himself because there was no room in his office to hold a meeting. Finally, in desperation, he hired an organizing consultant to help. In six hours, the boxes he’d paid to move to three different offices were replaced with a small conference table.

Tip! Look for ways to improve your time management. Often, stress is a result of simply not having enough time to complete everything you need to do.

“How long is this going to take and how much is it going to cost?” is the first question asked by potential clients. The answer: “The longer you wait, the longer it’s going to take and the more it’s going to cost.”

Select your tools

Find the perfect equipment to match your style of operating and arrange it efficiently and aesthetically. Barbara’s father often told her “half of any job is having the right tool.” Of course, he really meant, “using the right tools.” Many people, for example, fail to invest the time or get the training to use the organizing tools that already exist on every computer.

Tip! You own it! You are ultimately responsible for your own reaction to the stress at hand.

One client had Post-it® notes stuck all over her office to remind her of places to go and things to do. She swore that she could never use a calendar. “I just hate those ruled lines and the thought that every hour of every day needs to be so structured.” We found a unique calendar with a red leather cover and lots of open space on the pages. Within three weeks she called to say she didn’t know how she had gotten along without it. “It doesn’t control me - I control it!” She’ll never convert to a Palm Pilot, but she finally found the tool she could love. What you love, you will use. What you use, streamlines your life and work.

Tip! Articulate feelings and passion. Putting stress into words through interaction with colleagues can thwart the seclusion often felt during the later period of burnout.

Maintain your success

A major excuse for not getting organized is “It never lasts anyway!” Here’s good news. Once you accomplish the first four steps, maintaining your success is not difficult.

Remember those three questions earlier in this article? Does it work? Does you like it? Does it work for everyone? This ever- changing world requires asking those questions frequently. If the answer is “No,” it doesn’t mean what you did in the past was wrong. The situation has just changed. This five-step process is most powerful when it becomes a way of life.

Tip! Learn yoga or tai chi, perfect pastimes for reducing stress.

Do you have difficulty getting rid of clutter? How much of your clutter is there because “It might be useful someday.!” Several years ago, a colleague made a statement that influenced our work today significantly: “Sometimes overresponsibility becomes irresponsibility.” How much could that unused furniture or equipment benefit a nearby school or a community service group? What about that cane from your broken ankle eight years ago? What about that flute nobody has played for thirty years? It’s much easier to let go of something when you know someone else will benefit.

How often we hear “But my real problem is other people’s clutter! How do I change them?” One client complained, “At work people give me stuff I have to keep. I don’t have a choice, and at home, other people’s stuff drives me crazy.”

The shortest path to frustration and failure is trying to change other people. Your most powerful path to sustained success is to start with yourself, and let those around you be affected by observing your increasing calm, focus, and productivity. If all your tactics of the past have failed, perhaps it’s time to try a new approach. Tell yourself a new story about the amazing level of power and control you have over one person in the universe - you. Say to yourself “I don’t allow anything to rob me of my freedom to create the results I want in my life.” In other words, change what you can (you). Accept what you cannot change (everyone else), and waste no energy fighting the difference. Through the years, we have discovered an interesting phenomenon. Emotional loss, such as the death of someone close, loss of a dream, or frequent loss of physical belongings, can often impact people’s desire to hold onto physical things. One woman who had been fighting with her husband over his clutter for years got dramatic results when she told him, “You know, I never really understood how much you want to keep all this stuff. Let’s figure out how we can keep it.” She came a few days later to find the garage filled with boxes he was donating to a local thrift store.

Tip! There is also good evidence that physically fit people have less extreme physiological responses when under pressure than those who are not. This means that fit people are more able to handle the long term effects of stress, without suffering ill health or burnout.

Very few people are truly impervious to their environment. Most of us just pretend we are. We make promises to take care of the clutter later. In the meantime, we walk around as incomplete, diminished versions of the fully resourceful, fully generous people we could be. The world needs the best you have to give and if your best is smothered in clutter, we all lose. It’s a great campaign. We’re all in it together. Good luck.

Barbara Hemphill is the author of Kiplinger’s Taming the Paper Tiger at Work and Taming the Paper Tiger at Home and co-author of Love It or Lose It: Living Clutter-Free Forever. The mission of Hemphill Productivity Institute is to help individuals and organizations create and sustain a productive environment so they can accomplish their work and enjoy their lives. We do this by organizing space, information, and time. We can be reached at 800-427-0237 or at www.ProductiveEnvironment.com

Top 5 Ways To Demolish Performance Anxiety

Written by rob on July 9th, 2008 in anxiety.

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Have you ever found yourself performing on stage and the person in the front row is tapping his feat and you wonder whether you’re maintaining the beat? As you are looking around, do you see a few people whispering and chatting away to each other? Do you get worried what they are discussing? Perhaps your image isn’t right - your hair has moved out of place, or if you’re singing, your voice is a little croaky. If you’re wearing a trouser, do they see your zip undone? Maybe they are discussing how strangely your talent is showing through? Or are they commenting on what you’ve missed out?

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Perhaps you make several mistakes and your students, teachers, parents, partners are watching. What are they going to say later? Are they going to be very disappointed? Do you think about the rest of the crowd - will they demand their money back? Your hands are sweaty, shaking, and cold - it’s all visible from afar! Are you sure this is really what you are meant to be doing?

Stop there! Are you feeling like this? Have you ever felt similar to this? First of all, let me make it clear that you’re not alone. Performance anxiety exists with so many people from various professions to various levels. It all begins when our mind wanders and loses the concentration that you need.

As a musician, I used to experience a lot of this at times when I found it hard to play at various places however I’ve come up with the top 5 ways for me to get over any anxiety I have and play with unstoppable confidence!

Here are my top 5 ways to demolishing performance anxiety:

Tip! Identifying all stress and anxiety triggering factors and seeking solutions to avoid them in the first place. By performing this evaluation exercise, you can also find out, if it is possible to find a cure all by yourself, without resorting to drugs and medications.

Number 1: You have practiced to the best of your ability.

This is key. Ensure you remind, or constantly tell yourself that you have practiced well enough before your performance. For this particular performance, you are ready and going to give the audience the show of their life! Perhaps your playing can be better than what you think but for this situation, you are ready to go.

Number 2: Don’t Guess!

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If you see people tapping their feet, talking to each other, or anything else, don’t second guess. You will probably be wrong anyhow as it’s your perception (remember no 1 at this point)! Your guesses normally prove to be inaccurate and if you let it be with you it will remove you from continuing to portray your feelings.

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Number 3: Don’t Self-Judge

If you see anything happening in the audience or from your performance, don’t judge for yourself. Remember from Number 1, you are out to give the audience the show of their life - don’t spoil it especially when you don’t know what it is! Don’t Self-Judge! Doing this will take your out of the moment and destroys the flow of your music. How about just observing without describing in your head? See the immense difference it does to you!

Number 4: Be On Stage!

I don’t mean just appear on stage and perform; I mean really be on stage! Use your power of your mind and see yourself on stage, not in the audience. Remember, you are giving to the audience, not receiving. Get into that mode. You have the chance to show your beloved talent to so many people - make the most of the opportunity! Remember, you are in the music and in the moment. Don’t let any of the above stop that. You cannot be the performer and listener at the same time. Let the audience develop their thoughts for themselves.

Tip! Get support from your friends, doctor, and therapist if necessary. Check your area for panic/anxiety support or treatment groups! Then consider joining a local Toastmasters group to desensitize yourself, slowly, to speaking in public.

Number 5: Enjoy!

Each performance you have is valuable as it will further the promotion of your music or your instrument around the world. So many people will hear about the wonders you have created so remember, performance anxiety is easy to be rid of. I’ve done it, and so have thousands more musicians. Now we all enjoy performing anywhere we go. Do the same, and enjoy your performance. Let the adrenaline and your genuine lively passion for the music come through.

I suggest you look through and work through these top 5 ways of demolishing performance anxiety before each performance so you get maximum benefit.

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Relieve Vacation Stress By Planning Ahead

Written by rob on July 7th, 2008 in stress.

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Cindy looks at the calendar and sighs. Ah, the end of May. What a busy time!
Memorial Day is just around the corner and the package for her mom for Mother’s
day is still sitting on her bedroom floor. There are graduations to attend,
parties to plan and vacations to pack for. The thought of getting away for a family
vacation brings a smile to her face, but preparing her family for that trip is another
story.

Tip! Exercise: Research shows that physical exercise is the best tension reliever. It is an important remedy for stress.

The night before their trip Cindy is in a dazed panic. She has a huge pile of laundry
and she is just beginning to pack. Three year old Megan is a huge help… as Cindy
puts things in the suitcase, Megan takes them out. Seven year old Nicole insists that
she can pack herself (five stuffed animals, her blanket and swim suit should just
about do it!). Then of course there is Zachary (6 months) who needs
everything under the sun for a short trip. Cindy and Mike are up until 1:00am
packing.

Tip! A key difference between people who thrive and people who just survive stress is how they talk to themselves about the stress.

After an hour on the road the kids start asking, “How much longer til we get there?”
Mike decides to look at the map and realizes it’s still at home. A quick stop for a
map turns into a major episode when Cindy goes to change Zachary’s diaper and
realizes the diaper bag was buried underneath the luggage! Five stops, 2 changes of
clothing and 3 bribes later, the Fry’s arrive at their hotel exhausted.

Tip! Don’t deal with stress in unhealthy ways: This includes drinking too much alcohol, using drugs, smoking, or overeating.

The next morning everyone is excited to finally get to Disneyland. Cindy begins
searching for the Buy One Get One Free coupon she is sure she packed,….
somewhere. Meanwhile, Mike gathers the camera and video camera and notices the
video camera never got charged. After a long search for the coupon and waiting for
the video camera to charge, they are on their way. The first character the kids run
into is Cinderella. Mike gets out the camera to capture the moment only to find
out he is out of film. The rest of their vacation continues in much the same fashion
and by the time they arrive home Mike and Cindy are ready for a vacation from their
vacation.

Tip! Identify the source of your stress 2. Create ways to cope with the stress 3.

Tracy looks at her calendar and begins to plan. May is a busy month and they will be
going on vacation over Memorial Day weekend. She counts up the graduation
parties and makes a note on her “to do” list to buy graduation cards for the
upcoming month. Next she begins going over their upcoming vacation plans.
Pulling up her list of things to do before she leaves and revising her packing list
makes packing a breeze. Next week Tracy will have the car serviced, find a neighbor
who can feed the pets, buy film, charge the video camera, print out maps and stop
at the post office to have their mail put on hold.

Several days before their trip Tracy checks the weather at their destination and
prints out the packing lists. Brook, who is 7, is old enough to pack herself with a list
in hand. Tracy allows Brandon to pick things out and help cross things of the list as
they pack his bag together. Feeling so good about the work he’s done, Brandon
beams with pride. Later that night Tracy will pack for herself and baby Alex. The day
before the trip, Tracy fills the car up with gas and takes the kids to the grocery store
to buy snacks for the trip. They separate things in baggies and include wet wipes
and napkins for spills and put it all in the van.

Tip! One of the biggest sources of stress for many people is something I call the Too Many Hats Syndrome, or TMH for short. All of us have so many different hats to wear.

The drive to California is long but do-able with goodie bags and snacks packed for
the kids and frequent stops made. Of course, the built-in DVD player in the van is a
life saver! When the kids ask how much further, Kevin points to the rear view mirror
to show how far they’ve gone and how much farther they need to go (see tips
section).

Disneyland turns out to be everything they hoped for and the Tell’s have pictures
and video to record their memories. It was great to get time away from home and to
have time together as a family just having fun.

Tip! Take time to listen and act. If a stress issue is raised, be seen to be taking it seriously.

Planning ahead, rather than packing the night before you leave for a trip, will help
your vacation get started on the right foot.

Travel tips:

• Keep a toiletry bag packed all year round. Do the same for a make up
bag and a medicine bag. When it is time to leave for a trip, you will save time by
not having to pack these things. Just throw the bag in the suitcase.
• If traveling by
plane and checking luggage, tie each piece with a bright colored strip of cloth or
ribbon. This will make finding it easier from the carasol.
• Choose thin, wrinkle
resistent clothing for lower maintenance.
• Limit the amount of shoes you take.
Choose clothing that works with 2-3 pairs of shoes. Wear the bulkiest ones on
travel day.
• Pack more tops than bottoms. Bottoms (pants, skirts or shorts) take up
more room and can be worn more than once.
• Leave the house in good order so
you don’t have to return to a messy home.
• Create a list on the computer for things
that need to be done before you leave on a trip.
• Create a packing list on the
computer which can be revised for each trip.

Tip! Carefully consider whether or not you are in the right job. If successful stress management at work is just not possible and if you yearn for your time with a previous employer when things were better, maybe you’re in the wrong job.

Travel tips for families with children:

• When the kids ask how much farther, use the
rearview mirror to give them an idea. If the left side of the mirror represents where
home is, and the right side is your destination, point somewhere in the middle to
indicate how far you have traveled.
• If you are traveling with infants or small
children, consider traveling at night.
• Switching seats can add variety.
• Invest in a
portable or built in TV/DVD player (be sure to limit the time they watch it, but it is a
great way to help pass them time).
• Fill a ziploc bag with plastic silverware,
napkins, straws and wet wipes. Also bring along a towel or two, some trash bags
and paper towels for just about any type of mishap.
• If you are making a long car
trip, consider packing a small bag of goodies for each state you pass through. You
can fill them with treats and small toys.
• Pack books on tape, narrated stories on
tape (such as Adventures in Odyssey or The Chronicles of Narnia) or bring books
you can read to them.

Tip! Try a new sport or any form of physical activity. Exercise is probably one of the best ways of beating stress.

Susan Stewart is a professional organizer and the founder of Perfectly Placed
Professional Organization and Design in the Phoenix area. Perfectly Placed specializes
in bringing peace and order to busy families through organization. You can find out
more about Susan and Perfectly Placed at her website: http://www.perfectlyplaced.org



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